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Cam Adair is a speaker, writer and player of chess. A prominent thought leader on gaming addiction, he shares weekly videos on YouTube.

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“Valorant is cutthroat, punishing, and addictive as hell” –Cecilia D’Anastasio

Valorant is the highly anticipated first-person shooter game released by Riot Games on June 2, 2020.

The game was originally called Project A but has since changed to Valorant. It is developed by Riot Games, the makers of League of Legends – one of the most popular games over the past decade. The hype is real!

On the day of closed beta release, Valorant reached a million concurrent viewers on Twitch. It also trended on Twitter when the game wasn’t playable by the general public yet. These numbers beat the launch viewership of popular games like Apex Legends and Call of Duty: Warzone.

What is Valorant?

Valorant is a competitive 5v5 first-person shooter character-based game. It is designed to compete as an esports against Valve’s Counter-Strike series that has been immensely popular over the last 20 years. Similar game titles include Overwatch, Rainbox Six Siege and Call of Duty.

According to Polygon, “Each match has 25 total rounds; the first team to win 13 rounds wins the match.”

With Riot Games’ experience in developing esports infrastructure through League of Legends, all signs point to a global esports network for Valorant as well and many professional teams have already formed.

Related: What is Esports?

Valorant Agents

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Valorant is similar to a FPS-game like Overwatch whereby players select unique “characters” (called Agents in Valorant) to play within each match. Unlike Overwatch, in Valorant you will be unable to change your agent within the match itself.

Agents come with unique skills and abilities. Some will be simple such as the ability to use smoke to hide certain areas of the map. Other abilities will be more powerful such as reviving an ally or creating walls out of thin air. Some agents will even be able to perform a short-range dash!

An example of an agent is Raze. Her abilities include:

  • Blast Pack: Instantly throw a Blast Pack that will stick to surfaces. Re-use the ability after deployment to detonate, damaging and moving anything hit.
  • Cluster Grenade: Fire to throw the grenade, which does damage and creates sub-munitions, each doing damage to anyone in range
  • Boom Bot: Fire will deploy the bot, causing it to travel in a straight line on the ground, bouncing off walls. The Boom Bot will lock on to any enemies in its frontal cone and chase them, exploding for heavy damage if it reaches them.
  • Showstopper: Fire shoots a rocket that does massive area damage on contact with anything.

Riot Games have a lot of success with a similar “Champions model” in League of Legends. Thus Valorant’s agent-based gameplay is anticipated to be popular as well. New agents are likely to be added regularly.

Monetization Strategy

Valorant Weapon Skins

Credit: Riot Games

New details are emerging about Valorant’s monetization strategy.

  • The game is free-to-play game with the opportunity to spend money within the game.
  • No randomized loot boxes which is a good step to keep simulated-gambling features out of games played by children.
  • Weapon skins will be available either by purchasing the Battle Pass or purchasing them directly.
  • Battle Pass system will be available and pricing isn’t released yet but these typically cost around $10-20 and last 2-3 months.
  • In-game currency will be available for purchase with real money or by earning it through gameplay.

Data leaks thus far show an extensive weapon skins system built into the game, with as many as 45 variations of a weapon.

Riot’s commitment thus far to not have randomized loot boxes is a step in the right direction to keep simulated-gambling features out of a game that will be played by children. Of course, with the game still in development that can change at any moment.

Related: An Introduction to Loot Boxes, Microtransactions, and In-App Purchases

This is an important layer of transparency by a game company during a time whereby transparency and social responsibility in the industry is hard to come by.

The COVID19 coronavirus outbreak in 2020 has led to significant increases in gaming and technology use across the globe. Schools are being cancelled, kids are returning home, and you still need to work.

You already felt overwhelmed and now even more so…

So how do you navigate screen time and gaming when your kids are at home during the coronavirus crisis?

How can you avoid just letting them use screens all day every day, either feeling like you are a failure as a parent or stressing out with fighting with them about it?

Watch: Screen Time & Coronavirus w/ Nadja Streiter

9 practical tips for your family:

1) Get in the right mindset!

Reframe this crisis as an opportunity for you and your family to develop a deeper connection.

It might be painful at first, but don’t lose hope. Be prepared for bickering and decide how you are going to show up. We like the mantra, KFC: Kind, Firm, Calm.

Some of you might need to relax your rules a little… Okay but don’t feel you have to or get pressured into having no rules.

2) Focus on quality over quantity.

Are you/they watching cat videos on YouTube or learning to code? Are they FaceTiming with a friend or scrolling through Instagram? Are they playing a game that makes them angry or laughing and having a good time with mates? Are they playing educational games? Doing courses?

How they spend time on screens matters a lot more than “how much” time they spend on screens. And yes, sometimes, that even includes needing to watch a few cat videos on YouTube.

3) Use this newfound time to build skills and learn!

We always say we don’t have time to read that book, do that course, clean that room, try that new hobby, pick up the guitar again, call that friend, write that book.

Now you have it. Invest in yourself wisely. That doesn’t have to be all day, but every day, do something to grow and push yourself forward. And encourage your family to do the same.

This is a great opportunity for you to ask your tech-savvy kids to teach you about the features on your phones or computers that you don’t know.

4) Get healthy!

Work out a bit each day. Do it as a family. Put a yoga video on YouTube. Maybe break out the Nintendo Wii from the attic. Find time every day to do bodyweight exercises, stretch, meditate, get in shape! It will make staying home easier.

5) Establish a routine.

Maybe when you work. They do homework. You focus as a family for two hours and then take a break. Rinse and repeat as needed.

This process is one day at a time. Use structure wisely to provide certainty.

6) Have a family meeting!

Gather everyone’s input on what this experience has been for them and what they hope it to be over the next days, weeks, months. Let everyone have a voice!

Just get it out on the table so you can begin to have discussions on finding a compromise that works for your family. This is a good time to discuss family values!

If it starts get loud and confrontational, have everyone write their points and questions on index cards and go through them one at a time. Communicate expectations early and clearly.

This is also a good time to discuss any emotions or fears that are coming up around the crisis. Remember that some people are more comfortable communicating in writing and not out loud.

7) Establish “if then” consequences in writing.

Don’t go overboard.. especially if they are not realistic for you to adhere to over the next few weeks. Consistency is probably more important than rigidity at this time.

If this happens, then this happens. Standards are set and consequences are not surprises.

8) Be a role model.

Are you using technology wisely? Are you scrolling Twitter for your 18th hour today stressed and anxious and passing that onto other family members? Are you focusing on your own self-care? Are you embracing new hobbies?

Your capacity to be the best version of yourself at this time will be seen by others. Let your focus inspire them.

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In this guide you will learn exactly how to beat your World of Warcraft addiction, including practical strategies and personal stories.

“If you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

World of Warcraft was the best and worst time of my life.

It was the most fun I’ve ever had but I also became addicted to World of Warcraft and my life slowly crumbled around me.

With WoW Classic coming out I felt inspired to share my story in the hope that it brings peace to anyone out there who is struggling.

Watch: How I beat my World of Warcraft addiction:

My World of Warcraft Addiction

I started playing WoW when I was 18 years old. I had been a gamer for a long time but mostly played StarCraft and CounterStrike. At first I didn’t really like the game, but soon I fell in love.

At the time my life was a mess. I had dropped out of high school and after living with my girlfriend for a few months we broke up and I moved back in with my parents. I quit my job and suddenly had nothing but free time to play video games.

WoW was like a gift from the heavens.

I no longer worried about being depressed. I made new friends, developed new skills, and created a new sense of identity for myself. In WoW I was someone. I was respected, well-liked, and constantly felt a sense of progress and achievement.

Every day I woke up knowing what I needed to do in the game, and that all acted as a stark contrast to the real world where I had been bullied, rejected, and overall felt like I didn’t belong.

In WoW I found a new home.

When I think back to my time playing World of Warcraft there are so many fond memories. Almost every day I would wake up and play for the morning with my friend Kenna. She was a stay at home mom with a husband deployed overseas.

We played most of the time with our friends Daniel and Imman after they finished school or work for the day. We spent hours every day talking on vent, laughing and helping each other through life’s challenges.

WoW meant a lot to me and still does.

I remember Leroy Jenkins, and spending hours ganking guilds trying to raid Gruul. I remember the hours and hours and hours of grinding to get my flying mount. A friend had seen me grinding for a few days straight and spontaneously gave me the money for it. It was one of the happiest moments of my life and an act of kindness I’ll never forget.

I reached level 60 maybe a month before Burning Crusade was released and I’ll never forget the first day running off to explore a brand new world. It was like stepping off an airplane and you’re the only person on Mars.

I remember raiding Karazhan and defeating Prince Malchezaar. It was a time when a lot of the leadership techniques I learned playing hockey came in helpful.

Eventually I was recruited to a top ten guild in the world who was looking for a new Hunter. I was really excited about the opportunity.

That same weekend I took a bus for 15 hours to try and save my relationship but it didn’t work out. My dad drove through the night to pick me up and bring me safely back home.

This began the process of trying to turn my real life around and I decided to overcome my World of Warcraft addiction. It was hard on my friends and difficult to give up such a big opportunity with this new guild, but I knew if I didn’t quit my life would only continue to spiral out of control.

Is World of Warcraft Addicting?

There’s nothing inherently wrong with playing video games. That said, World of Warcraft does have a number of game design features that will cause you to be more at-risk of developing a problem.

Research shows massive online multiplayer games like World of Warcraft are more addictive than offline single-player games.

One of the reasons why this happens is because the amount of time it takes to level up increases significantly over time, causing you to have to spend more and more hours to achieve the same experience of “leveling up”.

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Source: Dr. Daniel King, Internet Gaming Disorder

A study carried out in 2012 by Billieux et al exploring the motives behind why people play World of Warcraft found teamwork- and competition-oriented motives are the most accurate predictors of fast progression in the game.

This means that people aren’t using World of Warcraft as an escape, but rather to scratch their itch for competition and challenge. This shouldn’t be surprising, as a need for challenge is one of the fundamental needs fulfilled by gaming, and is the reason why some of the most addicting games in the world are focused on competition, such as League of Legends and CS:GO.

Ultimately it’s not about whether World of Warcraft is bad or not, it’s about what your relationship is like to gaming and whether or not you can play in moderation. Personally, I am unable to play a game like WoW in moderation so I need to avoid it.

WoW Addiction Test

How do you know if you are addicted to World of Warcraft or not? How do you know the difference between a gaming hobby and a gaming problem?

The American Psychiatric Association recommends a set of nine questions to screen for a video game addiction. You can find them in our test below:

WoW Addiction Test

The red flags you want to watch out for are:

Being irritable or moody when you can’t play
Constantly needing to play more and more (“it’s never enough”)
Losing interest in other activities (e.g. sports, exercise)
Being deceptive (e.g. stealing money to buy things in game)
Jeopardizing school, work, and/or relationships (in order to game)

If you are reading this and realizing your gaming may be a problem, then you want to follow the advice below. Don’t wait until your situation gets worse!

How to Beat World of Warcraft Addiction


If you are like me and you struggle with a World of Warcraft addiction and you want to turn your life around, follow these steps:

Step 1: Commit to 90 Days

If you want to quit gaming the first thing you want to do is give yourself a break, and I recommend 90 days. You don’t have to decide to quit forever but you do need to experience what life is like without World of Warcraft.

You need to create a contrast in your life and also develop new habits.

At the end of the 90 days you can make a choice about whether you want to try gaming in moderation or if you want to continue to quit for good. I’ll leave that choice up to you but making that choice after having a 90 day break will give you a much better idea about what you should do.

Step 2: Find Replacement Activities

Next, you need to find new activities to replace gaming. World of Warcraft is a game that never ends. You can play for hours and hours and hours and still not even come close to completing every mission. That’s one of the reasons why it can be so addictive.

The key here is to avoid sitting around bored staring at the ceiling because this is when you will justify gaming. Being intentional with choosing new activities to do instead of gaming will make a big difference.

Find new goals and skills to develop, new ways to relax after school or work is done for the day, and new ways to make friends and socialize.

Related: 70+ New Hobby Ideas to Replace Gaming

Step 3: Schedule Your Day

World of Warcraft was your go-to activity whenever you had any free time, so now that you are going to quit you need to not only have new things to do, but you need to be more intentional with how you spend your time.

Use a daily calendar or an agenda to schedule your day – including your free time – so you always know what you are doing instead. Avoiding boredom is the key to your success.

I like to use the Pomodoro technique where I schedule one activity for 30-60 minutes and then take a 5-10 minute non-digital break, before going into my next activity.

Step 4: Navigate Cravings & Nostalgia

After you quit gaming you will experience urges and cravings to play. This is completely normal but it can also be frustrating. Try not to stress about them too much. They will come and go like the waves of the ocean.

If you are experiencing a craving, try and change your environment – ideally getting away from your temptations. Go for a walk outside, go to the gym, or call a friend. You don’t have to resist your cravings, you just need to identify that they are there, and let them pass on their own time.

Sometimes your cravings are just a form of nostalgia, and that’s definitely been the case for me with the release of WoW Classic.

It’s a desire to reminisce on my childhood, where I had no responsibilities and could spend months playing games without concern. But I’m in a different period of my life now and there’s no need to go back to play a game that I know causes problems in my life.

Ultimately that’s a choice you need to make for yourself. Identify what aspects of your life serve your highest potential and which ones don’t. No need to resist, simply let them go gracefully.

Step 5: Join a Support Group

World of Warcraft is a very social game and you may miss your friends and community when you quit. So join a support group and connect with other people on the same journey as you. Some options for that include:

You can also just talk to friends and family or a trusted friend to have them join you as an accountability partner.

Remember, you are not alone and there are thousands of other people just like you on this journey. There is no shame in asking for help and we are all in this together.

Bonus Tip: Build a New Identity

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Long-term you need to focus on building a new identity, especially if you have struggled in the real world with bullying or low self-esteem.

World of Warcraft and games like it give you an opportunity to create a new sense of identity and the more time you spend in that virtual world the less time you spend in the real world.

The frame of mind I like to think about here is that life is the ultimate video game and you are the character you get to build. So what skills do you want to develop? How do you want to feel about yourself? What goals do you want to achieve?

Personally that’s been about traveling the world, having my own business, making a positive impact, connecting with more friends and family, and just being the best person I can be.

It’s taken a long time, over ten years, to get to where I am today, but I tried to enjoy the journey as much as possible as well.

Last Word

You will go through a lot of ups and downs throughout your journey so take it one day at a time. Remember why you are doing what you are doing. Remember why it’s important for you to quit playing games. Keep going and never give up.

The thing I want to end on is if you’re reading this and you struggle with a World of Warcraft addiction, reach out for help. There’s no shame in it and you are not alone.

I hope my guide on World of Warcraft addiction has helped you and inspires you to keep pushing forward.

Your life is worth fighting for.

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Are video game addiction rehabs just an excuse for bad parenting?

Kids are addicted to video games and parents are to blame. This has been the public consensus to viral stories of parents struggling to regain control over their kids’ gaming.

But is it true? Is video game addiction a parenting problem? Are video game rehabs just an excuse for bad parenting? No. Addiction is far more complex than that.

It’s Not Bad Parenting

Recently Bloomberg reported the story of Debbie Vitany, a caring mother who is losing her 17-year-old son, Carson, to Fortnite — the current hottest (and most addictive) game in the world. I know this story well, as I struggled with my own addiction to video games for 10 years. My addiction brought me to the verge of suicide.

Since sharing my story of recovery seven years ago I have heard from thousands of people asking for help. And they aren’t only parents. 60% are adult gamers, unable to stop, and struggling to complete college or gain employment 1 1. King & Adair (2018). Clinical predictors of gaming abstinence in help-seeking adult problematic gamers. Psychiatry Research. × .

But can’t parents just take the games away? Turn off the wifi? Smash the Xbox? Sure, in some cases, but in others, this advice could be outright dangerous. Al Spencer is a caring mother who pulled the plug on her gaming addicted 17-year-old, and he responded by taking a fatal overdose. Thankfully after four days in the ICU, he pulled through.

Parents Are Struggling

While on tour in Australia last year I heard the heartbreaking story of my Uber driver. His 27-year-old son physically attacked him after he removed wifi access, causing him to fear for his life. So why doesn’t he just kick him out of the house? Because he figures his son will end up in jail. When it’s not your son it’s easy to say what you would do in that situation.

Michelle’s son refuses to go to school ‘due to headaches’ if he does not have unlimited gaming time. Of course when he has access he also refuses to go to school because he’s gaming all day. It’s illegal to not go to school in California where they reside, and her son has already had his first court date, leaving this family with the terrible choice of either allowing him to go down the path of the judicial system, or taking a second mortgage out on their home to send him to therapeutic boarding school.

Video game addiction is not a parenting problem. It is a mental health condition and public health issue. The World Health Organization has confirmed as much by adding ‘Gaming Disorder’ to the upcoming ICD-11, due out this year.

When Britta Hodge courageously shared the story of her son Logan’s gaming addiction on 60 Minutes, she was met with intense backlash, and a petition was started to physically remove Logan from her care. Meanwhile, over 500 parents joined her Online Gaming Addiction Facebook group to ask for help. The overwhelming sentiment by new members was how relieved they were to discover they were not alone.

Stop Blaming Parents

Blaming and shaming are not helpful. They are harmful. Stigma—the fear of being judged, dismissed, or misunderstood—is the largest barrier to people seeking help for their mental health. We should be encouraging parents who are struggling with addiction challenges to find professional support, not judging their parenting styles from the comforts of our peaceful home.

Kids are becoming addicted to video games because video games are specifically designed to be addictive, not because parents allow them to play too much. Where is the call for gaming companies to be held accountable for their role in creating this crisis?

Recent innovations such as loot boxes, a type of ‘mystery box’ where a player spends real-world money for the chance to win virtual goods – which research finds is psychologically similar to gambling 2 2. Drummond & Sauer (2018). Video game loot boxes are psychologically akin to gambling. Nature. × – has caused governments in Belgium and the Netherlands to take action, and the FTC has vowed to launch an investigation of their own.

Learning to parent in this digital age is crucial, and we need to provide better tools and resources to support parents in this process. Books such as Jordan Shapiro’s The New Childhood, Reset Your Child’s Brain by Victoria Dunkley, and Anya Kamenetz’s The Art of Screen Time, are steps in the right direction.

We need more public awareness campaigns, better training and screening tools for professionals, and for extreme cases — detox summer camps and rehab centers. But attacking parents who are brave enough to come forward must stop.

Prince Harry wants to ban Fortnite. But is that a good idea?

Fortnite is (still) the hottest game in the world. It has over 250 million players, and earned over $2.4 billion dollars in revenue in 2018.

Yet it’s tearing some families apart with Fortnite addiction issues. Should we ban it?

My thoughts:

Should We Ban Fornite?

As much as I love helping people overcome their video game addiction, and have a huge amount of sympathy for those that are struggling, I don’t think banning games is the way to go.

Gaming, social media, and the internet are here to stay.

We need to learn how to be responsible with these technologies, and learning how to maintain a healthy and enjoyable relationship with them is crucial.

Although I don’t think we should ban Fortnite, I believe that we should hold gaming companies more responsible.

As of right now, the gaming industry are free to create games that target and exploit a very particular subset of the population.

What’s the Issue?

You have to remember that the majority of gamers have no issues at all with addiction.

They’re able to manage their time effectively, and don’t forgo responsibilities to play games.

However, for a large number of people, gaming is a problem.

An increasing number of video games contain systems that cause them to be extremely addictive, as well as making gambling freely accessible to young children.

These systems allow video games to become extremely problematic for those that struggle with addiction, and don’t have the support in place to deal with it.

What Can We Do?

First and foremost, we need to make people more aware of the effects of gaming on themselves and their children.

For parents that means learning about the games that their children play, knowing the mechanics behind addiction, and understanding how to deal with video game addiction.

This can only happen if we work towards building public awareness of the gaming industry, and making this issue more well-known.

While this sounds great in theory, the video gaming industry is now worth over $140 billion dollars, making them a formidable opponent to putting regulations in place.

Having people like Prince Harry and Dr. Amir Khan going viral in the media is an incredible boost for the cause, but it doesn’t make a difference if people do nothing.

That’s why a lot of our work at Game Quitters is centered on getting the word out there.

We need to let people know that this is an issue happening right now, and it’s effecting millions of people over the globe.

Still Struggling with Fortnite?

Read our parents guide on Fortnite addiction

Additional reading: Fortnite: Is Prince Harry right to want game banned?

Worried? Take a short quiz on Apex Legends Addiction

Apex Legends is the new game in town.

After the phenomenal success of Fortnite, video game companies wanted to get in on their share of the action. Unsurprisingly, Electronic Arts (EA) was at the forefront of this emerging market.

EA are no strangers to creating highly addictive, and financially lucrative, video games. They’re one of the largest gaming companies in the world, making over $5 billion in 2018. 1 1. Electronic Arts Made $5.1 Billion in Revenue in 2018 × As a result, they have both the time and the resources to create something that keeps players hooked (and spending money).

Within two weeks of Apex Legends being released EA had already amassed 50 million players. 2 2. Apex Legends tops 50M players in first month × , making it one of the fastest growing games in history.

Is Apex Legends addiction something that you need to worry about?

What is Apex Legends?

Apex Legends is a Battle Royale shooter game aimed (no pun intended) towards a more mature audience than Fortnite.

It is free-to-play (with in-game purchases)and rated 13+ in the US, and 16+ in the UK and Europe for its “sustained depictions of violence towards human characters”.

The game is played in rounds (while the game is being played you cannot pause it without the potential of losing). Teams of three players battle 57 others to be the last ones standing.

Because the game is “free-to-play”, the business model depends on players spending as much money as possible through in-game purchases 3 3. Everything You Need to Know About Apex Legends In-Game Currencies × .

You can spend anywhere from $10-$40 at a time, with the majority of the items costing $11. Meaning you’d need to purchase the $19.99 option to be able to afford something useful. Not only that, but the items you can obtain through gameplay become increasingly frustrating to acquire as you rise through the ranks in-game.

The systems in place make Apex Legends a lucrative sales funnel, and players with certain addictive tendencies towards gambling could end up losing a lot of money.

Warning Signs of Apex Legends Addiction

Video game addiction is officially recognized by the World Health Organization. The three biggest warning signs to look out for are:

  1. Impaired control: Your gamer is struggling to limit or manage their time.
  2. Loss of interest in other activities: Your gamer’s life revolves around gaming and they may be neglecting normal life responsibilities.
  3. Continuing to play despite negative impact: Are their grades dropping? Are they struggling to gain or maintain employment? Is gaming having an impact on their relationships?

These are the three biggest warning signs for Apex Legends addiction, and there are others as well. To find out the severity of your problem, take our quiz:

Video Game Addiction Quiz for Parents.

Practical Tips and Strategies

As a parent, you need to control the problem now before it gets worse. Here are a few practical steps you want to take now:

First, you need to begin reducing gaming. Your target is to two hours or less a day, and ideally, not every day. One strategy is to use “game-free” days as a way to earn “game days.” Many parents of adolescents have found it helpful to have no gaming Monday to Thursday and then limited gaming on the weekends.

Next, you want to balance out gaming with multiple activities. Your target here is to keep gaming from being their single focus and only outlet to de-stress, socialize, and feel a sense of achievement. Integrate activities like exercise (sports), time in nature where possible, and in-person face-to-face interactions.

Finally, you want to rebuild the family structure. Have dinners together as a family (without technology), and schedule activities together on the weekends. Whether your gamer is an “addict” or not, stop calling them one! It only creates more conflict and hurts rapport.

Follow these three strategies and you will be able to start turning your son’s Apex Legends addiction around. For a full guide on how to help your loved one overcome their video game addiction, purchase a copy of Reclaim.

I have been gaming since I was 8 years old, and I can’t remember a time in my life where the first thing I did when I got home wasn’t sitting down at my computer and playing a game. It has been 64 days since I deleted steam from my computer and 20 days since I dismantled my PC.

Over 10 years of gaming I played with the same friend every weekend, joined many large communities, and also developed great friendships with other random people I’ve encountered. I’ve spent at least 10,000 hours on a Skype/Discord call, and at least 15,000 hours playing games.

You would think that someone so “addicted” would have such a hard time quitting, but it was probably one of the easiest things I’ve ever done.

So many people classified me as a gaming addict, but I wholeheartedly disagree still to this day. The problem was I didn’t have anything else to replace my time with. People would say “study more, or play a sport” – sure, but if I’m getting home at 4pm, and I study for a few extra hours, I’d still be playing at least 3-4 hours a night if I’m going to bed at midnight.

Over my life I averaged between 40-60 hours gaming per week. Some days I gamed 16 hours a day on the weekend, and particularly during holidays.

Since quitting, I’ve started multiple e-commerce businesses, made huge fitness gains, and been heaps more social. Rarely I might get a small urge to play a game, but honestly it’s rather insignificant.

Should You Quit Gaming?

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Quitting gaming is a rather extreme approach for any normal person to take, but it really depends on the person. Throughout my time gaming I developed a range of skills that are beneficial and applicable to my real life, and met many extraordinary people that have given me great life advice.

The skills you develop from gaming will depend on what type of games you play. I spent a large amount of time playing MMORPG games, where I was able to build a respectable degree of wealth. I learned the concept of risk vs. reward, and developed negotiation skills. On a holiday in Phuket, Thailand I found myself saving large amounts of money by using negotiation techniques I had learned from games.

Learning how to study a market and all the possible ways to earn wealth, then making a plan utilising them is a skill that can be applied to many forms of business. This has been particularly useful for me in creating an investment plan and budgeting real money. I also learned how gambling is not worth the risk no matter the wager, and that other forms of risk are much more worth taking.

In many of the games I played I found myself connecting with much more experienced players, and I noticed how their wisdom was able to quickly progress my development in the game. This has benefited me in the real world, as I have been going to venues and public events trying to expand my network of people who can assist me and advise me with my business.

I Don’t Regret Gaming

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It made me who I am today – it’s just time for me to move on and explore new avenues of living.

I’m not going to tell anyone to quit, but I will say this: If you are considering stopping gaming, do it because you want to, not because other people want you to. If you don’t actually want to quit, then you will simply be another example of a relapsing drug addict. The only drug addicts that successfully quit are the ones who want to do so in the first place.

I’m putting this out there because I just wanted share my experience quitting gaming. I will be returning to gaming for a short period of time when Skyrim 6 is released, but then after completion I’ll remove it. I do believe that you shouldn’t deprive yourself of your passions and joys, but when it begins to negatively impact the quality of your life, that’s when it becomes a problem.

My only advice would be to set real, achievable goals to work towards that consume most of your day. That has been the biggest tool for my success.

Thanks to everyone who read my story. Good luck to anyone on this journey with me!

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Take a Stand

Game Quitters exists to help those who need help with gaming addiction challenges to get the help, and to spread awareness about the negative impact gaming addiction can cause. Want to help? Grab a t-shirt or hoodie and show the world you care about this issue.

Game Quitters 2.0 introduces new interactive features and tools that allow you to take your video game addiction recovery to the next level. Want to see how? Read on.

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Game Quitters exists to provide the best tools, resources, and peer support for people struggling with a video game addiction. Today we are proud to announce a major upgrade to our platform to help us do just that.

When I wrote our first blog post back in 2011 on ‘How to Quit Playing Video Games FOREVER’ I never imagined we would end up as the face of a global movement against video game addiction. I never imagined that one blog post on a personal development blog would launch an international platform serving over 50,000 people each month representing 94 countries. But here we are.

We take this responsibility seriously and as our platform has grown in numbers, so too has the need for it to grow in service. For the past few months I have been working tirelessly with a small team to bring you Game Quitters 2.0, transforming our mostly content-based site into an interactive recovery platform.

Let’s see what’s new in Game Quitters 2.0

A Vision For the Future: New Game Quitters Branding

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When we first launched Game Quitters our focus was on providing gamers with the resources they needed to overcome their video game addiction, and our brand goals were to be relatable, cool, and fun, while representing a community you could be proud of.

Since then we have grown from a few blog posts and YouTube videos serving gamers, to international speaking tours, professional development trainings for therapists and mental health professionals, and advising public policy with government officials. It was time for our brand to reflect it.

So I reached out to the best Art Director I know, Derek Heisler, and asked him if he would help me re-envision the Game Quitters’ identity, expressing both the brand we are today and the vision we have for the future. He nailed it.

Game Quitters Branding

(To see the full new brand identity, click here)

I can’t express how grateful I am to Derek. Not only is he a world class talent, but he’s a world class friend who has had my back in all ways, personally and professionally.

To Derek, thank you for your tireless work on this project, your attention to detail, and going all-in with me. For anyone looking to upgrade their brand, photography, or overall art direction, I can’t recommend Derek enough.

New Tool: Find Inspiring Stories of Fellow Video Game Addicts

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One of the most powerful ways we can spread awareness about video game addiction is by sharing our collective stories of struggle and redemption. We are the best advocates of the issue, because we have gone through it. We know the devastating impact it can have, not only to ourselves but those around us.

By sharing your story you can inspire others to take action and get the help they need.

I’ve made it a personal mission to collect as many real stories as possible of gaming addiction and today we have over 60 of them published on the website, along with over 30,000 journal entries from members on the forum.

With so many stories already published (and more coming every day), we wanted to make it easier to find ones that would connect with you the most. So we worked with Alex from MD to build a new page layout and interactive tool to filter the stories.

You can now select stories that are written by those who have quit for under 30 days, 90+ Days, or 6+ months. You can also find stories written by those under 18 years of age, 18-30 and over 30. We hope to add more filters in the future.

I am on a mission to compile over 1,000 stories of gaming addicts. Want to help us achieve this goal?

Are You Addicted to Gaming? Screen Your Situation With Our Quizzes

How do you know if you (or a loved one) have a video game addiction? What is the difference between a gaming passion and a gaming addiction? How severe is your situation? Find your answers with our new quizzes!

Both the American Psychiatric Association (APA) and the World Health Organization (WHO) have provided evidence-based criteria to discern what a video game addiction is (or is not). For the APA they have a proposed set of nine criteria in the DSM-5 called Internet Gaming Disorder (IGD), and the WHO have an official diagnostic criteria of three-items called Gaming Disorder (GD).

We took both of these into consideration, along with a recent published study of recommended improvements by Dr. Daniel King to create our video game addiction quiz for gamers and parents. These are informal screening tools with the intention of supporting you in better understanding the severity of your situation. For a proper assessment we recommend to seek the help of a professional.

One More Thing: New Hobby Tool

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Since the beginning of Game Quitters, the number one question we receive from gaming addicts when they want to quit is “what else will I do with my time?” To help them find replacement activities we have traditionally provided a PDF list of 60+ new hobby ideas, categorized by activities that are active, relaxing, social, and achievement-based.

Although gaming addicts have shared that this list has been helpful, we wanted to improve it by turning it into an interactive tool. Now you can find new hobbies that meet your chosen criteria. Want activities that help with being active? Achievement-based? Relaxing? Social? Mentally engaging? Creative? Looking for activities that are free, low cost (under $100), or able to be done at home? Want offline activities? Something easy to start? Or one of my personal favorites?

Now you can! Select the filters you would like and instantly find new activity ideas. Each activity comes with a description and a list of resources to help you get started.

Other Improvements, Bug Fixes, and Design Tweaks in GQ 2.0


  • HTTPS: Improved security for the website.
  • /Open: We are now an Open Startup™, which means “operating with full transparency by sharing its metrics, including revenue, users, and traffic.”
  • /Team: Want to meet the team behind Game Quitters?
  • Emergency Button: On the verge of a relapse? Find our quick resources on this page.

Special thank you: Derek, Kevin Kulik, Alex, Emmanuel, Pieter Levels, WIP, our amazing community, and Board of Advisors for all of your help! Here’s to the next chapter.

Are we losing men to gaming and porn addiction?

Men are increasingly anxious, depressed, and struggling with suicide 1 1. CDC: Suicide rates are up 30 percent since 1999 × . They are dropping out of school and opting out of the workforce, instead choosing to live in a virtual world playing video games and watching porn. A masculinity crisis is on our hands.

Growing up as a boy is hard. You experience bullying at school and rejection by girls, leading to hurt and heartbreak. 1 in 3 boys grow up without a father, and for those of us lucky enough to have one, we only spend 30 minutes a week in conversation with them, compared to 44 hours we will spend in front of a screen 2 2. TED: Phillip Zimbardo on The Demise of Guys × . Without the tools and guidance to navigate our painful emotional states, we resort to escape.

Escaping into Gaming and Porn

“When life sucks you might as well stay in your room and live your life there.”

In Japan, a 2016 study found at least 541,000 people suffer from hikkomori 3 3. Hikikomori: The Japanese Cabinet Office’s 2016 Survey of Acute Social Withdrawal × , a phenomenon of social withdrawal in which the individual remains isolated in their room for months or years without social relationships. What are they doing while they are isolated in their rooms? Watching porn and playing video games.

At least 50% of men are playing video games and watching porn frequently. On April 14th when servers for the popular game Fortnite crashed for 24 hours, Pornhub (the most popular website for pornographic content) experienced a 10% surge in traffic from gamers, with searches for videos using the key term “Fortnite” increasing by 60% 4 4. Does “forced abstinence” from gaming lead to pornography use? Insight from the April 2018 crash of Fortnite’s servers × . When gamers were unable to game, they resorted to watching porn instead.

“I was addicted to gaming and porn because I was addicted to escapism.” -Paolo

We play games and watch porn to escape and fulfill our emotional needs. To feel a sense of achievement, we play games. To feel a sense of connection, we watch porn. For all the rest of our time, we mindlessly browse the internet as tech addicted zombies. Gaming, porn, and the internet provide a safe space. There is little-to-no risk of rejection, and we have more control over our experience.

“Pornography promises orgasm without intimacy. Video warfare promises adrenaline without danger. The arousal that makes these so attractive is ultimately spiritual to the core.” -Russell Moore

Gaming and Porn Addiction Change the Brain

Real life is boring, while gaming and porn are exciting. They require a low amount of effort for a consistent stream of different rewards, and this provides us with a rapid release of dopamine — our brain’s pleasure chemical. Research finds the more we are overexposed to this type of artificial digital stimulation, the more our brains rewire to not only expect it, but crave it.

The more you game, the more you want to game, the more your brain wants to game, so the more you game, and then you experience structural brain changes. There are three of them: numbed pleasure response — every day activities no longer satisfy you, hyper-reactivity to gaming — gaming is really exciting and everything else is boring, and willpower erosion — even if you wanted to quit you would struggle to have the willpower anyways due to changes to your prefrontal cortex. The same process works with porn addiction.

How to Overcome Gaming and Porn Addiction

To reverse these structural brain changes, research shows it requires a 90 day detox from gaming and porn. This means not playing video games or watching porn for a period of 90 days. Think of it as an experiment to learn more about yourself and your relationships to gaming and porn.

At the end of the detox you might want to try to play in moderation, or you may want to continue to quit forever, but you will be making that choice from an informed place about the impact gaming and porn addiction have in your life.

Block Access

To make the detox easier, block access to problematic apps, games, and websites using an app like Focus.Me. Delete Instagram off your phone, uninstall Steam, and block YouTube. The harder you make it to regain access, the less tempted you will be to relapse.

Beware: Addiction Swapping

Behavioral addictions are compulsive disorders driven by a desire to fulfill emotional needs we have. Often, that need can be to escape from stress, or simply boredom. Compulsive behavior comes from a lack of awareness so in order to combat it, you want to add more awareness and intention into your life.

Why are you doing what you are doing? How are you dealing with stress without gaming or porn? What else can you do to fulfill a desire for competition? Intentionally choose new replacements.

Navigate Withdrawal Symptoms

During your 90 day detox it’s common to experience withdrawal symptoms, such as cravings and urges, mood swings, irritability, feelings of apathy, headaches, and lethargy, amongst others.

It’s crucial that you watch out for potential triggers, and be mindful of cravings and urges to play games or watch porn. It’s normal to experience these symptoms, especially early on, so don’t sweat it. Learn to dance with your emotions.

Join a Support Community

Finally, join a support community. Whether that is Game Quitters, Reddit communities such as StopGaming and NoFap, or a 12-step group like CGAA or Porn Addicts Anonymous, being surrounded by others on a similar journey as you is proven to be helpful for you to succeed in your recovery.

It’s easier than ever to find yourself isolated in your room playing video games and watching porn. But what’s the impact that is having on your life? Is it making you happy, or are you simply entertained for a moment? Are you engaged in pursuing your goals, or avoiding responsibilities through escapism? With all of the temptations that exist in our world today it’s never been more important for men to be leaders, living their lives with passion and purpose.

Need help?

Reading this and struggling with a compulsion or addiction to gaming? You are not alone. Check out Respawn, a program specifically designed to help you quit gaming and take control of your life back. Backed by scientific research, join thousands of others like you who have quit gaming. Start your journey today.

A mini-guide on how stop playing Fortnite:


125 million people play Fortnite worldwide.

The game combines mechanics of recent popular games.

Thousands of parents report cases of Fortnite addiction.

Fortnite is the hottest game in the world with over 125 million people playing worldwide 1 1. PCGames: Fortnite player numbers: 140 million downloads and counting × . The game is free to download and play, yet through in-game offers for items such as extra costumes for their players, Fortnite has earned more than $1 billion 2 2. CNBC: Video game industry is booming with continued revenue × . With Epic Games recently announcing over $100M in prize money for the Fortnite: World Cup, it’s clear the Fortnite phenomenon is here to stay 3 3. Divorce Online: Is fortnite becoming a relationship wrecker? × .

Why Is Fortnite So Popular?

Fortnite is a combination of popular games such as Pokémon Go, Minecraft and Call of Duty, and appeals to a wide range of different gamers, from those who enjoy fighting, to those who enjoy economics, to those who enjoy being social. Although a fighting game, Fortnite appeals to teenagers with its cartoonish look and pop culture feel.

It also contains a Battle Royale mode, pitting you against up to 99 other players to see who will be the last gamer standing. This creates a strong hook for you to play more because if you come close to winning, you want to try again! Fortnite also contains daily challenges to keep you coming back each day, and is available on all platforms including on the PC, PS4, Xbox, Nintendo Switch, and mobile devices.

Fortnite is not only a viral sensation—with over 40 million people playing in the month of May alone—but it is intentionally designed to be addictive. Here are a number of other game design features in Fortnite:

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With the game’s popularity sky-high, and epic prize money available to be won by the best, parents are now hiring coaches for their sons and daughters in the hopes of them be coming the next star.

What is Fortnite Addiction?

The game hasn’t been a hit for everyone though, and parents report heartbreaking stories of Fortnite addiction. The horror these parents face range from teenagers refusing to go to school, to wetting themselves in order to keep playing, and even stealing money.

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Recently an online divorce website shared that Fortnite and other online games are the cause of 5% of divorce cases in the UK. Although the majority of gamers play in healthy ways, the World Health Organization estimates that around 4% struggle with addiction issues, and should seek professional help.

How to Stop Playing Fortnite

There are four steps to follow if you want to stop playing Fortnite:

First, you want to commit to a 90 day Fortnite detox. This means not playing Fortnite or any other video game cold turkey for a period of 90 days. Research shows your brain can be negatively impacted from overexposure to video games, and these structural changes take 90 days to reset.

Treat this as an experiment to learn more about yourself and your relationship to gaming. At the end of the 90 day period, you might want to try to play in moderation, or you may want to continue to quit forever. That choice is yours.

Next, you need to find replacement activities. You play video games like Fortnite because they fulfill certain emotional needs you have. These needs can include the desire to escape from stress, the desire to socially connect, the desire to experience constant measurable progress, and the desire to feel a sense of purpose or certainty. To stop playing Fortnite you need to replace the need Fortnite fulfills for you with new activities.

Third, structure your time. Video games are your go-to activity whenever you have free time and have fulfilled your obligations for the day. They are your habit, especially when you’re bored, or have nothing better to do. After you quit, be intentional with your time. Use a calendar or daily agenda to schedule your day with your new activities.

Finally, join a support community where you can learn from other gamers on the same journey as you. Free communities like Game Quitters, StopGaming on Reddit, or CGAA will make a big difference in not only providing strategies to help you quit successfully, but to also offer you encouragement and emotional support during the process. Quitting gaming is not always easy, but it’s worth it, and you do not have to do it alone.

Need help?

Reading this and struggling with a compulsion or addiction to gaming? You are not alone. Check out Respawn, a program specifically designed to help you quit gaming and take control of your life back. Backed by scientific research, join thousands of others like you who have quit gaming. Start your journey today.